DEAR Jasminda,

MY husband has a very irritating ringtone on his phone.

It sounds like something out of a science fiction movie. Is it wrong of me to ask him to change it?

Olive K.

Dear Olive,

A personalised ringtone can tell you a lot about a person.

You should therefore be aware that others may judge you based on this marker of your personality.

I was quite taken aback, for example, when my GP paused our consultation because his mobile rang.

As Steppenwolf’s ‘Born to be Wild’ filled the room, I wondered if this was the right man to be taking my blood pressure reading and performing a routine biopsy.

Email addresses are also fraught.

When I worked in recruitment, it was very hard to suggest a client to a future employer when the client’s email was drunk&stumbling95@gmail.com.

My own husband had to change his piercing ringtone because it was upsetting the dogs.

Maybe you can come to a compromise and change your ringtones regularly to keep things interesting.

Carpe diem,
Jasminda